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STEPHANIE GHOSTON PAUL

SPEAKER · FACILITATOR · LEADERSHIP DOULA · LIVING ANCESTOR

The work came looking for me.

What began as one lawyer's quiet unraveling became a life spent helping people and organizations practice care, repair, and liberation.

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THE SHORT VERSION OF A LONG TURN

For years, I was a paper-pushing lawyer. I accomplished on paper, and I was quietly certain there was something more.

I was chasing someone else's definition of success, slowly waking up to how different success and freedom really are.

Everything changed when someone walked me through the work of discovering my purpose. I came alive. I threw myself into coaching, into communities of practice, into the slow and honest work of remembering who I was underneath everyone's expectations of me. And once I found my way home to myself, helping others find their way home became my calling.

That's the work now. As a speaker, facilitator, leadership doula, coach, and consultant: I help people come home to themselves and their place in the world.

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THIS IS LIVING ANCESTOR WORK.

You are a living ancestor.

Today. Right now.

The boundaries you hold, the repairs you make, the choices you let breathe—these are already shaping the world the next generation inherits. Legacy is built in how we practice, today.

HOW I WORK

Grounded, honest, funny, and human.

I bring accompaniment for the real work of change. I'm the person in the room naming the thing everyone feels and is waiting for someone to say, and I stay with you in the process of making shifts.

My work draws on anti-oppression and liberatory frameworks, somatic and ancestral practice, and a willingness to stay honest about how hard the world is right now. It's rigorous and it's tender. It's strategy and it's spirit.

Yes, I make a mean roadmap. Yes, I'll pull out a divination deck.

RECOGNIZED & TRUSTED

A body of work, out in the world.

TEDx

SPEAKER

Top 3%

GLOBAL PODCAST · 10K+ PLAYS

2020-2021

TAKE NOTHING WHEN I DIE · 2 SEASONS

FEATURED IN & TRUSTED BY

Essence Blavity HuffPost The Oregonian Portland Business Journal ACLU of Oregon Portland Trail Blazers Southern Center for Human Rights Monterey Bay Aquarium

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Stephanie's coaching supported the most satisfying work of my life. I’m becoming the woman my ancestors dreamed me to be. She challenged me to trust myself as I seek liberation and joy.

— COACHING CLIENT

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THE WORK AHEAD

There’s a book coming.

Everything I've practiced and taught about being a living ancestor is becoming a book exploring how we build legacy in how we live, and in the choices we make today. Take Nothing When I Die opened this conversation. The book carries it forward.