How to Counter-Intuitively Revamp Your New Year Resolutions

Happy *Almost* New Year! It’s about that time again. Many across the world will soon be nursing their champagne hangovers while trying to decide what their New Year’s resolutions will be. It’s the season for vision boards, desire maps, and visualizing your future successes. Gym memberships will see a huge spike (per usual), as will various addiction-themed groups, and forgive/forget/organize/improve/live/love vaguery is at an all time high.

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Stephanie Ghoston
Chill...The 30,000 Foot View

The Principle: Cruising Altitude

I formally learned about this handy principle in college and recently found that it's a part of David Allen's Getting Things Done (GTD) Method. Isn't it funny when you learn that there's a scientific/psychological/universal explanation to something you've figured out on your own but couldn't properly articulate? I could have been a millionaire by now.

Anyway, this principle, about the view from 30,000 feet, boils down to essentially this:

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Stephanie Ghoston
Why 'I'll Sleep When I Die' Is the Worst Slogan Ever

The Slogan

I wouldn't dare attack the veracity of the slogan "I'll sleep when I die." 

I'm just saying it should retire like other similarly true-but-non-sensical statements such as "YOLO" (you do only live once...except if you believe in reincarnation) and "Only God Can Judge Me" (also true technically, but actually ANYONE can judge you and that's still not a reason for you to do whatever you want).

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Stephanie Ghoston
How to Stop the Self Sabotage Train

I received some great news about a month ago on a Sunday evening. In response, I started crying. 

Not like a few tears here and there, silent cry, pretend-like-you-have-dust-in-your-eyes, baby tears. I’m talking, wailing, can’t catch my breath, puffy eyes, crying. What was it that made me cry you ask?

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Stephanie Ghoston
"Someday" Isn't On the Calendar

I recently received the news that a beautiful young soul I knew died tragically in Brazil. He was a part of an inner circle group that I am involved with. I immediately thought of a note of encouragement that I had shared with him this past February.

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Stephanie Ghoston
Beyoncé’s Formation: How to Slay Even When You’re Inconsistent

Beyoncé’s Formation video and halftime performance were instantly polarizing. Some said this was her “I’m black and IDGAF” moment. She scared some folks and even seemed to set boundaries about who could and could not dissect her performance. Rudy Giuliani was not happy to say the least (he called her performance anti-police), and some outside of NFL headquarters. She was also accused of appropriating queer and trans genius, among other things. At the very least, Beyoncé proved

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Stephanie Ghoston